Commitment Phobe

Just had my dinner with friends. A question arose, pointing to our Malay friends, "Would you prefer to give birth of a baby boy rather than a baby girl?" To them, they don't really mind the gender of the baby, in fact they prefer girl because girl brings more joys to the family!

Well, then one of us claimed she is not going to give birth, as it is rated as the most painful experience in a woman's life. Then is she going to adopt child? No no, she said she is not going to be involved in any serious relationship.

I was aghast yet agreed to her point. She pointed out, in a relationship, you need to pour in commitment. A relationship is a matter of both, some more, both family. As an adult, there is a thing which comes bigger an bigger, called "responsibility".

Well, I really think she got the point. It is sweet to be with a lover hand in hand during shopping. But it slows down your pace and you need to consider about his feeling if he is not interested in what you are looking for. And, sacrifices are made, due to a lot of compromising situation.

Those especially freedom lover, are you a commitment phobe? Take a look at the following questions:
Are you concerned about the idea of forever?
Do you fear you could make a mistake in who you choose?
Do you fear a loss of your freedom/autonomy?
Are you afraid of a bad marriage- like your parents for instance
Do you fear you would be a bad mate?

I am afraid my answers are yes for most of the questions. So, conclusion? easy, I am a commitment phobe.

Freedom, cheers!